Breaking the Silence: A Personal and Professional Perspective on Integrative Therapy
As both a therapist and someone who has themselves reluctantly sought mental health support, I hope and can bring a unique perspective to the conversation about therapeutic approaches. My journey from NHS Management to becoming a therapist, catalysed for having to halt my career by caring for my father through his dementia until his passing last year, has deeply informed my understanding of the transformative power of integrative therapy.
Today mental health concerns are increasingly prevalent, yet many individuals remain hesitant to seek professional help. As a 52-year-old male therapist, I've experienced firsthand the statistics that Blom (2025) highlights - that men, particularly those aged 25-54, are significantly less likely to seek mental health support compared to women. The study found that 40% of men with symptoms of depression felt they had no need for mental healthcare, compared to only 25% of women (Blom, 2025).
My own experience with NHS talking therapy, whilst well-intentioned, left me frustrated with the constant "how do you feel?" questions when I wasn't entirely sure of my feelings, and the homework assignments of tracking triggering situations in notebooks felt more burdensome than helpful. This experience shaped my approach to integrative therapy, which combines person-centred, psychodynamic, and relational approaches to offer a more nuanced and effective solution for those sceptical of traditional therapeutic methods (Cooper, 2021).
What I've found, both personally and professionally, is that authentic listening and genuine human connection often prove more valuable than rigid therapeutic frameworks. Whilst I don't dismiss behavioural approaches or strict person-centred methods, my practice is built on the foundation of being present and responsive in a way that acknowledges the unique complexity of each individual's experience. This aligns with the American Psychological Association's (2012) recognition that flexibility and adaptability in therapeutic approaches are crucial for effective treatment.
For men who may be hesitant to engage in therapy, as I once was, integrative approaches can offer a more accessible entry point. By incorporating elements of psychodynamic therapy, which explores unconscious processes and early life experiences, we can help men gain deeper insights into the root causes of their struggles (Talk to Evolve Counselling, 2024). My personal experience of navigating career change and grief whilst caring for my father has given me a profound understanding of the challenges men face in expressing vulnerability and seeking support.
The person-centred aspect of integrative therapy emphasises empathy, unconditional positive regard, and authenticity in the therapeutic relationship. This non-judgmental environment, which I strive to create in every session, helps clients feel more comfortable opening up about their experiences and emotions, fostering a sense of trust and safety that is crucial for effective therapy (UK Council for Psychotherapy, n.d.).
Research consistently supports the efficacy of this approach. A comprehensive meta-analysis by Cuijpers et al. (2013) found that psychotherapy is at least as effective as medication in addressing most mental health concerns, with the added benefit of longer-lasting effects and a lower risk of relapse after treatment ends. For those concerned about the severity of their issues, as I once was, it's worth noting that studies have demonstrated that psychotherapy can be even more effective for individuals with high-severity depression compared to those with low-severity symptoms (Cuijpers et al., 2013).
Within my practice, I recognise that traditional therapeutic approaches don't resonate with everyone. My personal journey through career transition, caregiving, and grief has taught me the importance of meeting clients where they are, rather than forcing them into predetermined therapeutic frameworks. This understanding shapes my integrative approach, which draws from various modalities whilst maintaining a focus on authentic human connection and genuine understanding.
References
• American Psychological Association (2012) 'Resolution on the Recognition of Psychotherapy Effectiveness', Available at: https://www.apa.org/about/policy/resolution-psychotherapy (Accessed: 17 February 2025).
• Blom, S. (2025) 'Men's greater reluctance to seek mental healthcare', University of Gothenburg, Available at: https://www.gu.se/en/news/mens-greater-reluctance-to-seek-mental-healthcare (Accessed: 17 February 2025).
• Cooper, M. (2021) 'How to Explain Integrative Practices: A Directional Account', Available at: https://mick-cooper.squarespace.com/new-blog/2021/4/10/how-to-explain-integrative-practices-a-directional-account (Accessed: 17 February 2025).
• Cuijpers, P., et al. (2013) 'The efficacy of psychotherapy and pharmacotherapy in treating depressive and anxiety disorders: a meta-analysis of direct comparisons', World Psychiatry, 12(2), pp. 137-148.
• Talk to Evolve Counselling (2024) 'Exploring the Benefits of Integrative Counselling: A Holistic Approach to Mental Health', Available at: https://www.talktoevolve.com/post/exploring-the-benefits-of-integrative-counselling-a-holistic-approach-to-mental-health (Accessed: 17 February 2025).
• UK Council for Psychotherapy (n.d.) 'Psychotherapy evidence', Available at: https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/policy-and-research/research/psychotherapy-evidence/ (Accessed: 17 February 2025).
Understanding Your Attachment Style: A Guide to Relationships and Mental Health
Attachment styles play a crucial role in shaping our relationships and overall mental well-being. This handout will provide you with an overview of attachment theory, the different attachment styles, their impact on relationships and mental health, and recommendations for further exploration.
What are Attachment Styles?
Attachment styles refer to patterns of bonding that people learn as children and carry into their adult relationships. These styles influence how we perceive and deal with emotional intimacy, communicate our needs, respond to conflict, and form expectations about our partners and relationships.
The Four Attachment Styles
1. Secure Attachment
Comfortable with intimacy and independence
Able to balance dependence and autonomy in relationships
Positive view of self and others
2. Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment (Anxious in children)
Craves intimacy and can be overly dependent
May be demanding in relationships
Fears rejection and abandonment
3. Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment (Avoidant in children)
Values independence highly
May appear detached or uninterested in close relationships
Strong sense of self-sufficiency
4. Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (Disorganised in children)
Desires close relationships but fears vulnerability
May behave unpredictably due to internal conflict
Struggles with trusting others
How Attachment Styles Present in Relationships
Secure Attachment
• Comfortable with closeness and independence
• Effective communication of emotions and needs
• Ability to listen and understand partner's needs
• Positive expectations about relationships
• Constructive approach to conflict resolution
Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment
• Intense desire for closeness and intimacy
• Fear of abandonment and rejection
• May appear clingy or demanding
• Hypervigilant to signs of distance or withdrawal
• Tendency to seek constant reassurance
Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment
• Discomfort with emotional intimacy
• Preference for independence and self-reliance
• May appear emotionally distant or unavailable
• Difficulty expressing feelings or needs
• Tendency to withdraw during conflicts
Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
• Conflicting desires for intimacy and independence
• Fear of both closeness and abandonment
• Unpredictable behaviour in relationships
• Difficulty trusting partners
• May alternate between clingy and distant behaviours
Impact on Relationships and Mental Health
Positive Impacts
• Secure attachment promotes healthy, stable relationships
• Understanding your attachment style can lead to personal growth
• Awareness of attachment patterns can improve communication
Potential Challenges
• Insecure attachment styles may lead to relationship difficulties
• Anxious and avoidant styles can contribute to emotional distress
• Unresolved attachment issues may impact mental health and self-esteem
Origins of Attachment Theory
Attachment theory was developed by John Bowlby in the 1950s and further expanded by Mary Ainsworth in the 1970s. Bowlby proposed that early childhood experiences with caregivers form the basis for how individuals approach relationships throughout their lives. Ainsworth's research, including the famous "Strange Situation" experiment, helped identify and classify different attachment styles in children.
Attachment Styles in Adulthood
In the late 1980s, Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver extended attachment theory to adult romantic relationships. They found that attachment patterns observed in childhood often persist into adulthood, influencing how individuals form and maintain romantic partnerships.
Improving Your Attachment Style
While attachment styles are formed early in life, they are not fixed. With self-awareness and effort, it is possible to develop a more secure attachment style:
1. Recognise your attachment pattern and its impact on your relationships
2. Practice self-reflection and emotional awareness
3. Communicate openly and honestly with partners about your needs and fears
4. Seek professional help, such as attachment-based psychotherapy, if needed
5. Work on building self-esteem and a positive self-image
6. Learn to balance independence and intimacy in relationships
Conclusion
Understanding your attachment style can provide valuable insights into your relationship patterns and emotional responses. By recognising these patterns, you can work towards developing more secure attachments and improving your overall mental health and relationship satisfaction.
Recommended Further Reading
Bowlby, J., 1988. A secure base: Parent-child attachment and healthy human development. New York: Basic Books.
Levine, A. and Heller, R., 2012. Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find-and keep-love. New York: Penguin.
Johnson, S.M., 2008. Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. New York: Little, Brown Spark.
Siegel, D.J. and Hartzell, M., 2003. Parenting from the inside out: How a deeper self-understanding can help you raise children who thrive. New York: Penguin.
Wallin, D.J., 2007. Attachment in psychotherapy. New York: Guilford Press.
Mikulincer, M. and Shaver, P.R., 2007. Attachment in adulthood: Structure, dynamics, and change. New York: Guilford Press.
True North Collective: Supporting Our Local Community in Keighley
In West Yorkshire, True North Collective (TNC) is making a meaningful difference in community support. Founded by a dedicated team of professionals, the organisation offers targeted programs to help individuals facing various challenges.
Supporting Our Community
TNC recognises that mental health, personal development, and community well-being are interconnected. Led by directors Pawel Kosinski, David Wootton and Treasurer Sue Small, the organisation combines professional expertise from therapy, digital innovation, financial guidance, and community leadership.
Three Key Initiatives
1. Compassion Collective: Mental Health Support
The Compassion Collective provides counselling and support for men and other groups often underserved by traditional mental health services. Through subsidised counselling, sound therapy workshops, and pain management sessions, TNC creates a supportive environment for individuals to address their mental health needs.
2. Empower Collective: Skills Development
Responding to rapid technological changes, the Empower Collective offers practical workshops in financial management, digital literacy, and career development.
3. Thrive Collective: Wellness Through Nature
The Thrive Collective takes a unique approach to wellness, offering guided walking sessions and community fire-pit evenings. By combining physical activity, mindfulness, and social connection, participants discover new ways to build resilience and well-being.
A Comprehensive Approach
TNC is designing its programs to interconnect, ensuring participants have ongoing support and growth opportunities. The organisation focuses on inclusivity, welcoming individuals from diverse backgrounds, with a particular emphasis on supporting marginalised groups.
Community Partnerships
TNC is keen to link with likeminded organisations and is part of a new and exciting environmental and enterprise community in the heart of Keighley. The organisation is committed to creating practical, accessible support for community members.
Get Involved
Learn more about True North Collective at www.truenorthcollective.co.uk, Email: info@truenorthcollective.co.uk or visit the Woodville Activity Centre, Woodville Road, Keighley, BD20 6JA.
At True North Collective, we believe in supporting individuals to build stronger, more connected communities.
Finding peace in a greasy spoom
Finding Peace in a Greasy Spoon
Sitting here in this corner café, waiting for my ancient Volvo to get fixed, and it hits me - there's something special about these places. Not the fancy spots with names I can't pronounce, just your regular café where the coffee's decent and nobody minds if you nurse it for an hour.
Got me thinking about how we're all searching for some kind of peace these days, aren't we? Some people shell out fortunes for fancy retreats, when sometimes all you need is a quiet corner and a brew.
The thing about cafés is they're like a buffer zone between being alone and being social. You can sit here, watching life happen around you - the old couple sharing their crossword, students with their laptops, workers grabbing a quick sarnie. Nobody bothers you, but you're not exactly alone either. It's like being alone together, if that makes sense.
And there's something about being in these spaces that lets your mind settle. Maybe it's the background chatter, or the smell of toast, or just watching the steam rise from your cup. Your thoughts can wander without getting lost, if you know what I mean.
Sometimes the most profound conversations happen over a simple cup of coffee. Not in some sterile room with certificates on the walls (we provide that as well btw), but in places where people feel at home. Places where you can just... be.
That's why I've been mulling over something. What if we could create these moments on purpose? Not therapy sessions exactly, but morning meetups. Just coffee, maybe some breakfast, and space to breathe. No pressure to pour your heart out, no awkward group sharing unless you fancy it. Just a chance to experience this kind of peaceful company with others who might need it.
It's funny how the simple things - a decent brew, a bit of people-watching, the morning light through steamy windows - can sometimes do more for your head than all the self-help books in the world. There's healing in the ordinary, isn't there?
So I'm putting it out there - would this be something you'd be interested in? Just a morning coffee, maybe a chat if you're up for it, or just sitting quiet if that's more your speed. No pressure, no expectations. Just a bit of peace and quiet in good company.
Because sometimes that's all we need, isn't it? A moment to pause, a decent cup of tea, and the knowledge that it's perfectly alright to just sit and be.
Let me know what you think. Could be onto something here, or could just be the caffeine talking. Either way, my Volvo's probably ready by now.
[If you're interested in morning coffee meetups or want to learn more about our peer support and therapeutic services, drop me a line richard.pierce@truenorthcollective.co.uk. Sometimes the best healing happens over a simple cup of coffee.]
Breaking Barriers: Why Men Should Embrace Therapy and How True North Collective Can Help.
On January 20, 2025, True North Collective (TNC) launches its comprehensive counselling and therapy service, addressing a critical need in mental health support, particularly for men. This launch comes at a time when the disparity in mental health treatment between genders is more apparent than ever.
The Gender Gap in Mental Health Support
In the UK, only 36% of referrals for talking therapies like counselling and psychotherapy are for men (Baker, 2018). This statistic is alarming, especially considering that suicide rates among men are approximately three times higher than women (Office for National Statistics, 2022). The reluctance of men to seek therapy stems from various factors, including societal pressure to conform to traditional masculine norms of self-reliance and emotional control.
Understanding the Barriers
Many men struggle to express emotions, fearing it will lead to a loss of masculine identity (Scholz, Crabb and Wittert, 2017). There's also widespread scepticism about the benefits of therapy, particularly when it involves self-disclosure and introspection (Lynch, Long and Moorhead, 2018). These barriers can lead to severe consequences, with men more likely to turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms like substance abuse and risk-taking behaviours (Affleck, Carmichael and Whitley, 2018).
True North Collective's Approach
TNC's new counselling and therapy service aims to break down these barriers. Our programme provides a comprehensive suite of therapeutic and mental health support activities, designed to address individual needs and enhance emotional resilience.
We offer:
Therapeutic Support: Counselling, listening skills, and communication skills training.
Specialised Therapies: Innovative approaches like dance elemental therapy, sound healing, and forest bathing.
Health Management: Understanding chronic pain and stress reduction techniques.
Why Our Approach Works
Flexibility: Our programme accommodates ongoing participation and new intakes, allowing men to join at any time and engage in different activities as their needs evolve
Diverse Options: We offer alternative formats that may be more appealing to men who are hesitant about traditional face-to-face counselling (Berger et al., 2013).
Holistic Support: Our interconnected projects combine mental health support with digital skills training and social activities, providing a comprehensive approach to well-being
Safe Space: We create an environment where men can explore their emotions, gain insight into their thought patterns, and develop healthier coping strategies without judgment.
The Benefits of Therapy for Men
Therapy can be a powerful tool for personal growth, self-understanding, and overall well-being. It can help address a wide range of issues, including depression, anxiety, trauma, relationship problems, and low self-esteem (Orlando Health, 2023). By challenging outdated notions of masculinity and promoting open conversations about mental health, we aim to create a more supportive environment for men to prioritise their emotional well-being.
Innovative Approaches to Mental Health
At TNC, we believe in offering a diverse range of therapeutic options to cater to different preferences and needs. Our specialised therapies, such as dance elemental therapy and sound healing, provide unique avenues for self-expression and healing.
These innovative approaches can be particularly appealing to men who may feel uncomfortable with traditional talk therapy.
Community Integration and Long-term Support
Our programme is designed not just for short-term intervention but for long-lasting impact. We emphasise community integration, partnering with local organisations to provide a far-reaching support network.
This approach ensures that participants have access to resources and connections beyond their time in our programme, fostering sustainable well-being and personal growth.
Digital Inclusion and Financial Empowerment
Recognising the interconnected nature of mental health and overall life satisfaction, TNC also offers digital skills training and financial literacy programmes.
These initiatives aim to reduce social and digital isolation, empowering men to manage their finances, pursue career goals, and engage confidently in the digital world. By addressing these practical aspects of life alongside mental health support, we provide a truly holistic approach to well-being.
Join Us in Breaking the Stigma
As we launch our counselling and therapy service on January 20, 2025, we invite men to take the courageous step towards better mental health. At True North Collective, we believe that seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Our doors are open to all who wish to embark on a journey of self-discovery and emotional resilience. Remember, it's not just about surviving; it's about thriving. Let's work together to break the silence surrounding men's mental health and build a community where everyone feels empowered to seek the support they need.
References
Affleck, W., Carmichael, V. and Whitley, R., 2018. Men's Mental Health: Social Determinants and Implications for Services. The Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, 63(9), pp.581-589.
Baker, C., 2018. Obesity Statistics. House of Commons Library.
Berger, J.L., Addis, M.E., Green, J.D., Mackowiak, C. and Goldberg, V., 2013. Men's Reactions to Mental Health Labels, Forms of Help-Seeking, and Sources of Help-Seeking Advice. Psychology of Men & Masculinity, 14(4), pp.433-443.
Lynch, L., Long, M. and Moorhead, A., 2018. Young Men, Help-Seeking, and Mental Health Services: Exploring Barriers and Solutions. American Journal of Men's Health, 12(1), pp.126-139.
Office for National Statistics, 2022. Suicides in England and Wales: 2021 registrations.Orlando Health, 2023. Why Men Don't Go to Therapy. [online] Available at: https://www.orlandohealth.com/content-hub/why-men-dont-go-to-therapy [Accessed 19 January 2025].
Scholz, B., Crabb, S. and Wittert, G.A., 2017. "Males Don't Wanna Bring Anything up to Their Doctor": Men's Discourses of Depression. Qualitative Health Research, 27(5), pp.727-737.
Blog written and researched by:
Richard Pierce, Director of Counselling and Therapy Services, True North Collective.
Building Stronger Communities Through Men's Wellness
It all begins with an idea.
Written By Richard Pierce, Director of Counselling and Therapy Service, True North Collective.
As a BACP Registered Male Counsellor and founder of True North Collective, I've witnessed how supporting men's mental health creates ripples that strengthen entire communities. My journey isn't just a professional one – it's deeply personal, and it's shaped our approach to building spaces where everyone benefits when men embrace wellness.
Finding Our True North
Like many men, my path to wellness wasn't straightforward. Working in a demanding HR role, I embodied what many do: the problem-solver, the one who carries on regardless. It took reaching a breaking point to recognise that true strength lies not in solitude, but in connection and community support.
The Power of Community Connection
At True North Collective, we've created something different. We understand that traditional therapy isn't always the first step men want to take. That's why we've built a community that supports mental health through various pathways:
• Adventure and outdoor activities that challenge and invigorate
• Skill-building workshops that foster personal growth and community engagement
• Social spaces where people can connect, share experiences, and support each other
• Support networks that understand the unique challenges men face while celebrating diversity
Breaking New Ground
Research shows that when men engage with their mental health, it positively impacts their families, workplaces, and communities. At True North Collective, we embrace this ripple effect. Our programs create environments where men can engage with their well-being in ways that feel natural and empowering, leading to stronger relationships and more connected communities.
The True North Difference
Our community stands apart because we understand that nurturing men's mental health strengthens the fabric of society. We recognise that:
• Personal growth leads to more meaningful connections with family and friends
• Emotional awareness enhances leadership at work and in the community
• Supporting men's mental health creates more nurturing environments for everyone
• Wellness isn't just about managing problems – it's about creating positive change that benefits all
Join Our Community
If you're in the Aire and Worth Valley area, True North Collective welcomes you. Based at the Woodville Activity Centre in Keighley, we will be offering various programs and activities designed to support mental health and community connection.
A Vision for the Future
As we grow, our mission remains clear: to create spaces where men can develop emotional awareness and resilience, leading to stronger, more connected communities. Whether you're seeking personal growth, looking to develop new skills, or want to contribute to community well-being, True North Collective is here for you.
Take the First Step
Ready to be part of a community that supports genuine growth while contributing to positive social change? Visit us at True North Collective. Here, you'll find people who understand that when men embrace mental health and emotional well-being, everyone benefits.
Remember, joining our community isn't just about getting support – it's about being part of a movement that recognises how nurturing men's mental health creates more resilient, understanding, and connected communities.
True North Collective is based at the Woodville Activity Centre, Woodville Road, Keighley BD20 6JA, offering a range of activities and support services. For more information about our programs and how to get involved, reach out to us today.