The UK Supreme Court Ruling on Biological Sex: Providing Context and Balance

Introduction

The recent landmark ruling by the UK Supreme Court on 16 April 2025 has clarified that the protected characteristic of "sex" under the Equality Act 2010 refers specifically to biological sex, not to acquired gender or legal sex recognised through a Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC). This judgment stemmed from the case "For Women Scotland Ltd v The Scottish Ministers," which challenged Scottish Government guidance that included some trans women within the definition of "woman" for the purposes of improving gender representation on public boards.

As someone who previously served as a Deputy Director of HR responsible for policy implementation, I recognise the profound implications this ruling has for workplace policies, training programmes, and governance frameworks across the UK. While I'm no longer in a position where I'd need to implement such changes, I believe it's important to approach this topic with listening, empathy and kindness – values I now bring to my counselling practice.

This article aims to provide context and balance, examining not only the practical implications for employers and HR professionals but also considering the social and political ramifications for those most affected by this ruling.

Legal Clarification and Its Significance

The Court's ruling establishes that the Equality Act distinguishes clearly between "sex" and "gender reassignment" as separate protected characteristics. It confirms that acquiring a GRC does not change a person's biological sex for legal protections under the Act. This provides much-needed legal clarity in an area previously characterised by ambiguity and contested interpretations.

The judgment confirms that sex-based rights, exemptions, and policies—such as positive action initiatives, occupational requirements, and access to single-sex spaces—must be grounded in biological sex rather than legal or acquired gender.

For example, recruitment targets or single-sex facilities designated for women must consider biological females only, not trans women with GRCs.

However, this should not be misconstrued as simply a ruling about "biological gender of women," as some commentary has suggested. The implications extend far beyond that narrow framing, affecting policy implementation across multiple sectors and impacting various stakeholders differently.

Practical Implications for Employers and HR Professionals

Having previously led HR policy development, I understand the challenges organisations now face in implementing this ruling while maintaining inclusive workplaces. The judgment necessitates careful review and potential revision of existing policies to ensure compliance while preserving dignity and respect for all employees.

Organisations must now navigate a dual protection framework: upholding sex-based rights as defined by biological sex, while simultaneously ensuring transgender employees are protected under the separate characteristic of gender reassignment. This balancing act requires both legal precision and human empathy.

For HR professionals and employers, I would recommend the following actions:

Policy Review and Alignment

• Conduct a thorough review of all HR and equality policies, including recruitment practices, dress codes, parental leave provisions, and single-sex facilities arrangements.

• Ensure policies align with the clarified legal definitions while maintaining respect for all employees.

• Consider seeking legal advice on particularly complex or sensitive policy areas.

Training and Development

• Update training materials for staff and management to explain the distinction between "sex" and "gender reassignment" under the Equality Act.

• Equip managers with the necessary skills to handle sensitive conversations empathetically and professionally.

• Emphasise the organisation's commitment to dignity and respect for all employees, regardless of protected characteristics.

Support Systems and Communication

• Strengthen confidential support systems for all employees, including transgender colleagues who may feel particularly vulnerable following this ruling.

• Communicate clearly about the ruling's impact and the organisation's ongoing commitment to inclusion.

• Create safe spaces for dialogue and questions to address concerns respectfully.

Monitoring and Review

• Establish ongoing monitoring processes to assess policy effectiveness and compliance.

• Regularly review the implementation of policies to ensure they achieve their intended outcomes without unintended consequences.

• Be prepared to adapt approaches based on feedback and further legal developments.

The challenge for organisations lies not just in legal compliance but in fostering workplaces where all employees feel valued, respected, and included—despite potentially divergent views on these complex issues.

Social Implications: Understanding Different Perspectives

When I worked in HR, I learned that policy changes affect people differently based on their lived experiences. This ruling is particularly significant because it touches on fundamental aspects of identity and belonging.

For some cisgender individuals, particularly those who hold binary views of gender, the judgment may be seen as a reaffirmation of biological realities and protections for women's sex-based rights. It provides clarity on contentious issues such as access to single-sex spaces or gender representation policies, which some see as necessary safeguards for fairness and safety.

Conversely, for some transgender people and their advocates, the ruling represents a significant setback. By excluding trans women—even those with legal recognition—from the legal definition of "woman" under the Equality Act, the judgment restricts their access to certain rights and protections. This exclusion may exacerbate social and economic inequalities faced by trans individuals and contribute to feelings of marginalisation.

As someone who values listening without judgment and practising empathy, I recognise that both perspectives come from genuine places of concern. The challenge for society lies in acknowledging these differing viewpoints while maintaining respect for individual dignity.

Political Context: Beyond a Simple Binary

This ruling occurs within a wider political debate often characterised as "trans rights versus woke ideology." Such framing, however, oversimplifies a complex issue and risks further polarising discourse.

Right-wing groups and gender-critical feminist organisations have largely celebrated the ruling as a victory for biological sex-based protections. For example, For Women Scotland and supporters such as J.K. Rowling have framed the decision as safeguarding women's rights against perceived encroachments by transgender inclusion policies.

Meanwhile, transgender advocates and many human rights organisations view the ruling as part of a broader backlash against LGBTQ+ rights. Similar legal and political actions are occurring internationally, where trans rights have become a flashpoint in culture wars.

The Court itself cautioned that the ruling should not be seen as a triumph of one group over another, emphasising the need for kindness, empathy, and tolerance values that resonate deeply with my current counselling practice. Yet, the polarised political climate means this judgment will likely not satisfy all parties and may deepen existing societal divisions.

The Importance of Empathy and Balanced Discourse

Throughout my career in HR and now in counselling, I've found that the most productive approach to contentious issues involves listening with empathy rather than rushing to judgment. This ruling affects real people with real lives and identities, and discussions around it should reflect that reality.

The legal clarity provided by this judgment is essential for employers and policymakers, but it also highlights the limits of law in resolving deeply personal and social questions about identity and belonging. No court ruling can fully address the lived experiences of individuals navigating gender identity in a society still grappling with these concepts.

As we discuss and implement this ruling, I believe several principles should guide our approach:

Respect for Individual Dignity

• Recognise that transgender individuals remain deserving of respect, dignity, and protection from discrimination.

• Understand that cisgender women's concerns about sex-based rights also deserve thoughtful consideration.

• Avoid language or actions that dehumanise or dismiss either perspective.

Evidence-Based Discourse

• Base discussions on facts rather than fears or stereotypes.

• Acknowledge the complexities of both biological sex and gender identity.

• Recognise that simplistic narratives often fail to capture the nuanced reality of people's lives.

Collaborative Problem-Solving

• Seek solutions that protect the rights and dignity of all parties where possible.

• Involve diverse voices in policy development, including those most affected by decisions.

• Be willing to revisit approaches that prove harmful or ineffective.

Conclusion

This landmark ruling underscores the challenges we face in balancing competing rights and identities in a diverse society. As someone who has implemented HR policies and now practises counselling, I believe the way forward lies not in seeing this as a battle to be won but as a complex issue requiring ongoing dialogue and mutual respect.

The fact that such protections have had to be legislated reflects the reality that society is not always inclusive or understanding. As divisions grow, it becomes ever more vital to foster dialogue that acknowledges the dignity of all people—cisgender and transgender alike—and to work towards workplaces and communities where everyone feels safe and valued.

This ruling is but one step in a complex journey. It clarifies legal definitions but also calls for ongoing effort to ensure that protections against discrimination are meaningful and that respect for human diversity remains central to our social and political life.

As we navigate these waters, let us remember that behind every policy, every ruling, and every debate are real people whose lives and wellbeing matter. In my experience, listening without judgment, practising empathy, and showing kindness can bridge divides that legal judgments alone cannot address.

References

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Peer Support: Real Connection, Real Impact

At True North Collective, we believe in the transformative power of human connection. People who've lived through challenges, who truly understand, and who can empathise without judgement — that's the essence of peer support. It's not about offering advice or diagnosing problems; it's about fostering real connection through shared lived experiences.

But what exactly is peer support? Where does it come from? And how can it positively impact your mental health — whether you're actively in therapy, waiting for services, or simply trying to navigate life's complexities?

Let's explore…

The Origins of Peer Support

Peer support is far from a new concept. It taps into the innate human tendency to support one another, a practice that has existed for centuries. From gathering around fires to sharing stories in places of worship, over kitchen tables, in workplaces, or during social movements, peer support has always been a cornerstone of communal care.

Modern peer support as we recognise it today began to take shape during the 1970s and 1980s. It emerged from mental health survivor and recovery movements as a grassroots response to stigma, exclusion, and dissatisfaction with traditional mental health services. These movements were driven by individuals who felt that formal systems often failed to address their emotional and practical needs.

In its early days, peer support was informal and raw — people came together as equals rather than professionals or patients. The guiding principle was simple yet profound: You are not alone. Through shared experiences, individuals found strength and solidarity.

Today, peer support has evolved into a recognised approach integrated into NHS services, charities, recovery groups, and community organisations like True North Collective. Despite its growth and formalisation, the core of peer support remains unchanged: authentic human connection.

What Exactly Is Peer Support?

At its heart, peer support is about bringing people together who have faced similar challenges — whether those challenges involve mental health struggles, trauma, bereavement, burnout, or major life transitions. It complements professional therapeutic interventions but operates on fundamentally different principles.

Key Features of Peer Support:

Equality: Everyone involved is valued for their lived experience; there are no hierarchies.

Non-clinical approach: Peer support avoids diagnoses, assessments, or treatment plans.

Focus on connection: The emphasis is on mutual understanding rather than fixing problems.

Flexible formats: Peer support can be one-to-one or group-based.

Peer-led facilitation: Sessions are led or co-facilitated by trained peers who have firsthand experience with the issues being discussed.

Unlike therapy — which is led by clinicians trained to explore underlying psychological issues — peer support prioritises mutual respect and shared understanding. It creates a space where individuals can feel heard and validated without needing to justify themselves.

At True North Collective, our peer support groups are held in welcoming and confidential environments. We aim to foster spaces where participants feel safe to express themselves freely. Whether you're sharing your story or simply listening to others, the focus is on creating an atmosphere of respect and belonging.

Why Peer Support Matters

Research has increasingly highlighted the benefits of peer support for mental health. Studies show that connecting with others who share similar experiences can reduce feelings of isolation and improve overall well-being. Peer support also empowers individuals by fostering a sense of agency and resilience through mutual learning and encouragement.

In addition to these emotional benefits, peer support can complement therapy by providing ongoing community-based care while individuals wait for professional services or transition out of therapy. It bridges gaps in formal systems by offering accessible spaces for connection and healing.

Further Resources

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Additional resources include Mind (mind.org.uk), Rethink Mental Illness (rethink.org), and the National Survivor User Network (nsun.org.uk).

Peer support reminds us that healing doesn't always come from professionals — sometimes it comes from each other. Through shared understanding and genuine connection, we can navigate life's challenges together.

Building Resilience and Community: The Importance of Role Models and Shared Experiences for Men's Mental Health

The Crisis Facing Young Men Today

In today's rapidly changing world, young men face unprecedented challenges that test their resilience, self-belief, and sense of purpose. Drawing inspiration from Gareth Southgate's thought-provoking Richard Dimbleby Lecture, we at True North Collective (TNC) recognise the critical need for spaces where men can discover their identity, build meaningful connections, and contribute to society in impactful ways.

Southgate's lecture highlighted a deeply concerning trend: young men are increasingly feeling isolated, grappling with their masculinity, and struggling to find their place in society. This crisis is evident across various metrics, including education, employment, and health outcomes.

The Centre for Social Justice's recent report, "Lost Boys", echoes these concerns, describing nothing short of a crisis facing boys and young men across the UK. Their research reveals that young men are falling behind in almost every important metric of societal success. Most alarmingly, suicide remains the leading cause of death for men under 50 in the UK – a heartbreaking statistic that underscores the urgent need for intervention and support.

The Digital Age and Its Impact

One of the key challenges identified by both Southgate and contemporary research is the unrelenting impact of social media and digital technology on young people's lives. As Southgate eloquently put it, "Today, young people are bombarded by information at all times of the day from a device that fits neatly into the palm of their hand, and updates by the second. They're targeted with images of the perfect body, the perfect career and the perfect life, a beautifully crafted highlights reel where success appears to be instant and effortless."

This constant exposure to curated perfection has created an environment where young men compare themselves not just to peers in their immediate surroundings, but to idealised versions of success from across the globe. The result is often a deep sense of inadequacy and a fear of failure that can paralyse rather than motivate.

Recent polling cited by Southgate found that the majority of 16-24 year olds believe social media has become more toxic and addictive in the past five years, negatively impacting their mental health, sleep, attention span, and ability to work or study.

The 'Epidemic of Fatherlessness'

Perhaps one of the most striking revelations from the Centre for Social Justice report is what they term an "epidemic of fatherlessness". The report highlights how 2.5 million children in the UK have no father figure at home, noting that boys are more likely now to own a smartphone than to live with their dad.

Southgate reflected on this reality, acknowledging that while having a father figure at home is ideal, it's not the only way for boys to find positive male role models. However, as community centres close, sports facilities become less accessible, and community events dwindle, young men have fewer opportunities to meet traditional role models like coaches, youth workers, and teachers.

In this void, many young men turn to online spaces, searching for direction and meaning. Unfortunately, this often leads them to unhealthy alternatives like excessive gaming, gambling, and pornography, or worse, to toxic influencers who, as Southgate describes, "willingly trick young men into believing that success is measured by money or dominance, never showing emotion, and that the world, including women, is against them."

The Power of Failure and Resilience

One of the key messages from Southgate's lecture is the importance of experiencing and overcoming failure. He argues that young boys need to "fail often and learn fast" to build resilience. This process of falling, getting back up, and trying again is crucial for developing the mental fortitude needed to face life's challenges.

"In my opinion," Southgate states, "if we make life too easy for young boys now, we will inevitably make life harder when they grow up to be young men."

At TNC, we embrace this philosophy wholeheartedly. Our programmes and activities are designed to create a safe environment where men can push their boundaries, take risks, and learn from both successes and failures. We believe that it's through these experiences that true growth and resilience are fostered.

Southgate emphasises the difference between "trying and failing" rather than "failing to try". This mindset is at the core of what we do at TNC. We encourage men to step out of their comfort zones, try new things, and learn from every experience.

Building Identity, Connection, and Culture

Southgate outlines three key foundations for building belief and resilience: identity, connection, and culture. Each of these elements is as important to wider society as they were to the England football team under his leadership.

Identity

A crucial aspect of mental health and resilience is having a strong sense of identity. Southgate talks about the importance of understanding "who am I?" and "who are we?" in building both individual and collective identity.

At TNC, we encourage men to explore these questions for themselves. Through our various programmes and activities, men have the opportunity to discover new skills, contribute to meaningful projects, and find their place within a supportive community. This process of self-discovery can be transformative, helping men build a stronger sense of self and purpose.

As Southgate reflected about his time with the England team: "We shared personal stories. We talked about our country, the football legends who came before us and our place in history. By the end, we knew who we were, a proud, diverse, resilient team that stood up for each other and was ready to write our own chapter."

Connection

Southgate emphasises the critical role of connection in building belief and resilience. He states, "No matter how talented you are as an individual, success is impossible without the right people around you". This sentiment resonates deeply with our mission at TNC.

We strive to create a community where men can form authentic connections, share their experiences, and support one another. Through peer support groups, outdoor activities, and volunteering opportunities, we provide multiple avenues for men to build camaraderie and develop a sense of belonging.

Research strongly supports the importance of social connections for mental health. A study by Holt-Lunstad et al. (2010) found that strong social relationships were associated with a 50% increased likelihood of survival. At TNC, we're not just building a community; we're creating a support network that can significantly impact men's wellbeing and longevity.

As Southgate pointed out, "Real connection, the kind that gives you belief and resilience is becoming harder, not easier, to find. You can have millions of followers online and not one person to turn to when you really need help."

Culture

Southgate defines culture simply as "how we do things around here" – made up of hundreds of small behaviours and actions that shape the overall environment.

At TNC, we're committed to creating a culture where values matter: courage, humility, and integrity over selfishness, greed, and arrogance. We believe that the culture we create today will shape the kind of men we become tomorrow.

As Southgate said, "We all have the power to create that culture, small actions at an individual level, ladder up to something far bigger at a societal level. That's how we can make changes in our schools, in our workplaces, in our communities, and yes, in our nation as well."

The Importance of Role Models

Both the Centre for Social Justice report and Southgate's lecture highlight the declining presence of traditional role models in young men's lives. At TNC, we recognise the power of mentorship and role modelling. Our community brings together men from diverse backgrounds and experiences, creating opportunities for organic mentorship relationships to form. We believe that every man has something valuable to offer, whether it's life experience, professional skills, or simply a listening ear.

Southgate's own experiences illustrate the importance of mentors and role models. He speaks of Alan Smith, his youth coach at Crystal Palace, "who wasn't afraid to challenge me, not because he wanted me to fail, but because he wanted me to succeed", and of Stuart Pearce, who supported him after his devastating penalty miss in Euro 96.

Redefining Success

A crucial aspect of building resilience in young men is redefining what success means. As Southgate eloquently argues, even in professional sport, winning a trophy isn't the only marker of success. "If I've learned anything from my life in football," he says, "it's that success is about much more than the final score. It isn't a straight line, and it's not a single moment."

At TNC, we celebrate the journey as much as the destination. We recognise that true success is how you respond in the hardest moments – it's about having the belief and resilience to persevere when things get tough.

Southgate points to examples like Harry Kane, who was released by Arsenal as a youth player but went on to become England's record goal scorer, and Ollie Watkins, who started in non-league football before scoring the winning goal in England's Euro 2024 semi-final against Holland. As Southgate puts it, Watkins was "an overnight success after 20 years".

Join Us in Building Something Meaningful

As Southgate suggests, now is the perfect time to get involved with True North Collective. We're in the exciting phase of building and shaping our community, and we need your help. Whether it's assisting in creating shared spaces for future activities, promoting our services, clearing outdoor spaces, or generating ideas for new initiatives, your contribution is valuable.

At TNC, we welcome you as you are. We value what you can contribute, recognising that everyone has unique skills and experiences to offer. We may not always get it right, but as Southgate says, it's important to try and learn from the challenges, failures, and wins.

In conclusion, True North Collective is more than just a support group or activity centre. We're building a community where men can discover their identity, build resilience, form meaningful connections, and contribute to society in impactful ways. By embracing the principles of trying, failing, learning, and supporting one another, we're creating a space where men can truly thrive.

Join us on this journey. Together, we can build something truly meaningful and make a positive impact on men's mental health and wellbeing.

References:

• Centre for Social Justice. (2024). Lost Boys: The Crisis Facing Boys and Young Men.

• Holt-Lunstad, J., Smith, T. B., & Layton, J. B. (2010). Social relationships and mortality risk: a meta-analytic review. PLoS medicine, 7(7), e1000316.

• Southgate, G. (2025). Richard Dimbleby Lecture. BBC.

Written by Richard Pierce, Director of Counselling and Therapy Services, TNC.

Unravelling My Family Scripts: A Personal Journey Through Psychodynamics and Genealogy

The Mirror of Practice

Within my own counselling practice, I've witnessed a number of transformations as clients courageously explore their childhood memories to unlock past experiences. These journeys into personal history often provide profound insights and positive steps forward for those seeking answers. I've observed how understanding family scripts can liberate clients from patterns they never consciously chose.

In working with a previous client, this pricked my conscience if I routinely invite clients to examine their past, shouldn't I be equally prepared to explore my own? I’ve not done this proactively since my own studies into family systems therapy. This question has become increasingly poignant over the past year, following my dad’s passing. It has marked a transition point—a moment when family history suddenly feels more urgent and precious.

When a close friend's mother passed away recently, it cemented my conviction that understanding our family histories is profoundly important. These narratives help us piece together our place in the world, learn from generations before us, and shape what we aspire to for our futures. The professional has become personal through a deepening recognition of the power of these connections.

The Privilege of Being a Keeper of Stories

Now, my mum stands as the primary living connection to our family's past, with my elder sister holding significant pieces of our shared history as well. Their stories and memories represent an irreplaceable archive—one that, if not gathered and preserved, could disappear forever. This realisation has motivated me to begin documenting our family narrative whilst these precious resources remain accessible.

As a therapist, I'm acutely aware of how family scripts—those unwritten rules, expectations, and patterns of behaviour passed through generations—influence how we perceive ourselves and navigate relationships. They operate beneath the surface of our conscious awareness, shaping our decisions and reactions in subtle yet powerful ways (Duke et al., 2008). I hope I have in turn helped to guide clients through the process of identifying and understanding these scripts, yet I've only recently begun applying this framework to my own life.

Professional Insight, Personal Application

Psychodynamic approaches have always formed a part of my practice—the understanding that our early family experiences fundamentally shape who we become. Recent research into intergenerational trauma suggests these experiences transmit across generations through both psychological mechanisms and potentially even biological factors (Fossion et al., 2015).

In my counselling work, I've seen how understanding family background provides clients with valuable context for their present experiences. When clients gain insights into their family history, they often discover both challenges and strengths that have been passed down through generations. This professional experience has sparked my curiosity about my own family's journey through time. What positive traditions have been maintained in our family? What resilience and wisdom have previous generations demonstrated that might still offer guidance today?

Beginning the Journey of Discovery

For many clients, their genealogical journey begins modestly—perhaps with a casual conversation about family history or an old photograph that sparks curiosity. Initially, these explorations often focus on basic information: names, dates, and occupations of ancestors. However, these investigations may evolve into something far richer and more meaningful.

Clients can discover stories of resilience during challenging historical periods, tales of romance that crossed social boundaries, accounts of migrations driven by economic necessity, and anecdotes revealing characteristic family traits that they recognise in themselves today. This recognition of patterns and traits can be particularly illuminating for clients seeking to understand themselves better.

What makes genealogical exploration particularly valuable is the multiple perspectives it incorporates. When clients engage with different family members, they encounter varied memories and interpretations of shared experiences. These differing viewpoints often fill gaps in understanding and create a more nuanced picture of family history—a tapestry woven from documented facts, personal memories, and family folklore.

While family trees and timelines provide important frameworks, equally valuable are the spontaneous revelations that emerge from photographs, heirlooms, or seemingly unrelated conversations. Through working with clients interested in their family histories, I've come to appreciate that genealogical research is as much about patience and presence as it is about documentation and verification.

The Therapeutic Value of Family History

The Therapeutic Benefits of Family History Exploration

When clients engage in exploring their family histories, they may experience significant therapeutic benefits. These explorations frequently lead to moments of revelation and healing that can transform their self-understanding and relationships.

Understanding the origins of family patterns can provide valuable context for current behaviours. For example, uncovering stories of resilience—learning about ancestors who rebuilt lives after significant losses, overcame discrimination, or adapted to new cultures—can strengthen a client's sense of self-efficacy. Research has shown that connecting to family narratives of perseverance can bolster psychological resilience (Duke et al., 2008). These narratives of resilience become resources clients can draw upon during their own challenging times.

The Power of Memory Anchors in Family History Exploration

From a practical perspective, I've witnessed firsthand how powerful visual anchors can be in accessing family memories. When my father and aunt were both living with dementia, I discovered that looking through old photographs with them created remarkable moments of connection. While they struggled to remember what had happened just ten minutes earlier—an experience that was increasingly frustrating and frightening for them both—these visual portals to the past triggered vivid recollections.

A faded photograph of a childhood home or a family gathering would suddenly illuminate their faces with recognition. They would share detailed stories about events that had occurred decades earlier, often with remarkable clarity and emotion. These moments created a bridge between us, allowing them to engage more fully in the present through their connection to the past—much like how hearing a favourite teenage song can transport any of us back to a specific memory with extraordinary detail.

For clients exploring their family histories, this experience suggests several practical approaches:

• Using visual prompts like photographs, heirlooms, or familiar locations to trigger memories when interviewing older family members

• Asking specific, open-ended questions about the people and places in these visual anchors

• Creating timelines that place family events in historical context

• Documenting stories through recordings, journals, or digital archives

• Exploring family patterns with patience and compassion, recognizing that memory works in non-linear ways

The therapeutic value lies not in constructing a perfect chronological history, but in the moments of connection and understanding that emerge. These explorations can lead to greater empathy for older generations, improved family relationships across generations, and a more nuanced appreciation of the complex forces that have shaped one's family identity across time.

Building Bridges Through Shared History

Perhaps the most unexpected benefit of this genealogical exploration has been its effect on my current family relationships. As I've engaged my mother and sister in this project, our connections have deepened. There's something profoundly bonding about exploring our shared past together.

Our conversations have transcended the usual topics of daily life, opening doors to discussions we might never have had otherwise—about values that have been passed down through generations, about the emotional legacies we've inherited, about the ways in which our family has adapted to societal changes over time.

These discussions haven't always been comfortable. We've encountered family secrets, disagreements about how events transpired, and painful memories that had been suppressed. But navigating these challenges together has strengthened our relationships. We've practiced listening to each other's perspectives, holding space for difficult emotions, and collaboratively making sense of our shared history.

Creating a Legacy for Future Generations

As my project has evolved, I've become increasingly aware that I'm creating something that will outlast me—a gift for my nieces that connects them to their roots. In an era characterised by mobility, technological change, and rapid social transformation, understanding where one comes from can provide a sense of stability and continuity.

My hope is that by documenting our family history, I'm providing my nieces with resources that will help them navigate their own lives with greater awareness and compassion. Perhaps understanding the patterns that have shaped our family will help them make more conscious choices about which traditions to maintain and which to transform. Perhaps knowing the challenges their ancestors overcame will strengthen their resilience when facing their own difficulties.

This aspect of the project has given it a sense of purpose that transcends personal curiosity. I'm not just exploring the past; I'm creating a bridge between generations—preserving stories that might otherwise be lost and making them accessible to those who will come after me.

Practical Approaches to Family Exploration

For those inspired to embark on their own genealogical journeys, I offer some approaches that have proved valuable in my experience:

1. Begin with the living: Start by interviewing older family members. Their memories are precious resources that can't be replaced once they're gone. Record these conversations if possible, both to preserve the information and to capture the unique cadence and character of their voices.

2. Use prompts: Sometimes direct questions about family history yield limited responses. Instead, try using photographs, heirlooms, or locations as prompts. "Tell me about this photograph" or "What do you remember about this house?" can elicit rich narratives.

3. Create a visual representation: Developing a family tree or timeline can provide structure for your exploration and help identify gaps in your knowledge. It can also reveal patterns that might not be apparent from individual stories.

4. Contextualise personal stories: Research the historical events and social conditions that shaped your ancestors' lives. Understanding the broader context can provide insight into their choices and experiences.

5. Acknowledge multiple perspectives: Different family members may have divergent memories or interpretations of the same events. Rather than seeking a single "correct" version, value these differences as representing the complexity of family experience.

6. Be gentle with secrets: Family histories often contain secrets—some protective, others harmful. Approach these with sensitivity, recognising that decisions about what to reveal should be made thoughtfully.

7. Notice patterns: Look for recurring themes, traits, or relationships across generations. These patterns can reveal family scripts that may continue to influence current generations.

8. Create a shareable record: Consider how you'll preserve and share what you learn. This might take the form of a written narrative, a digital archive, a physical album, or regular family storytelling sessions.

A Journey Without End

What began as a simple inquiry into my family history will I hope evolve into an ongoing practice of discovery and integration.

Understanding our family scripts is not a project to be completed but a process to be engaged with throughout our lives. As we grow and change, we bring new perspectives to old stories. As we face new challenges, we may find new relevance in ancestral experiences.

Exploring the past isn't about dwelling in history but about liberating ourselves to move forward with greater awareness and choice.

References

Duke, M.P., Lazarus, A. and Fivush, R. (2008). Knowledge of family history as a clinically useful index of psychological well-being and prognosis: A brief report. Psychotherapy Theory, Research, Practice, Training, 45(2), pp.268-272.

Fivush, R., Bohanek, J.G. and Zaman, W. (2011). Personal and intergenerational narratives in relation to adolescents' well‐being. New Directions for Child and Adolescent Development, 2011(131), pp.45-57.

Fossion, P., Leys, C., Vandeleur, C., Kempenaers, C., Braun, S., Verbanck, P. and Linkowski, P. (2015). Transgenerational transmission of trauma in families of Holocaust survivors: The consequences of extreme family functioning on resilience, sense of coherence, anxiety and depression. Journal of Affective Disorders, 171, pp.48-53.

Healthline. (n.d.). Intergenerational Trauma: What It Is and How to Heal. [online] Available at: https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/intergenerational-trauma [Accessed 18 Mar. 2025].

Breaking the Silence: Why Men's Mental Health Needs Urgent Attention and How True North Collective Is Bridging the Gap

The Hidden Crisis of Male Mental Health

Let's be honest - talking about our feelings isn't something most blokes wake up excited to do. For many men, the mere suggestion of discussing mental health can feel about as comfortable as a hedgehog in a balloon factory. Yet beneath this reluctance lies a crisis that's claiming far too many lives.

Mental health has long been a topic shrouded in stigma, and for men, these conversations often feel like navigating a minefield blindfolded. As statistics reveal the disturbing reality of men's mental health struggles, particularly concerning suicide rates, it becomes clear that traditional mental health services haven't quite hit the mark for many of us.

In this blog, I'll dive into the troubling statistics around male suicide, explore why existing services often don't quite fit the bill, and introduce how our community interest company, True North Collective in Keighley, is offering a fresh approach to supporting men's mental wellbeing.

The Crisis: Shocking Statistics on Male Mental Health

The numbers paint a picture that's impossible to ignore, especially here in the UK:

• Suicide Rates: Men are three times more likely to die by suicide than women. In 2020, men accounted for three-quarters of registered suicide deaths in the UK..

• Prevalence: According to Mental Health UK, 12.5% of men in England have a mental health disorder.

• Underreporting: We're not great at asking for help, are we? Just 36% of all NHS referrals for psychological therapies are for men.

• Mental Health Impact: A whopping 77% of men reported experiencing symptoms of common mental health conditions such as anxiety, stress, or depression.

• Stigma: 52% of men would worry about taking time off work for mental health-related reasons, while 46% would feel embarrassed or ashamed to tell their employer. 

Why Traditional Mental Health Services Miss the Mark for Many Men

While professional mental health services are brilliant for many people, they often don't quite hit the spot for men. The traditional approach to therapy sometimes overlooks some crucial factors specific to male mental health:

• Stigma and Perceptions of Masculinity: Many of us feel pressure to appear strong and self-sufficient. "Man up" and "boys don't cry" aren't just phrases – they're cultural programming that can make asking for help feel like admitting defeat³.

• The Lack of Male-Focused Services: Sitting in a room discussing our deepest emotions isn't everyone's cup of tea (we do, do this too though). Many men feel they need more practical, action-oriented solutions.

• Long Waiting Lists and Inaccessibility: Getting an NHS appointment is like trying to buy Oasis reunion tickets – you'll spend hours in a virtual queue only to be told "Sorry, nothing available" at the end. With long waiting lists and limited access to affordable therapy, men who are already reluctant to seek help are often left high and dry.

• Over-medication Rather Than Real Solutions: In some cases, traditional services rely heavily on medication. Meanwhile, men are more likely to use alcohol or drugs to cope with mental health issues, with 8.7% of men being alcohol dependent compared to 3.3% of women.

How True North Collective Bridges the Gap

Here at True North Collective, based on Woodville Road in Keighley, we believe men's mental health deserves a tailored, holistic, and supportive approach. By offering a range of services and opportunities, we aim to tackle the barriers that prevent many men from accessing the help they need.

Affordable and Accessible Therapy Services

We understand that affordability is a major concern when it comes to seeking help. That's why we offer a sliding scale fee for therapy, ranging from £15 to £40 per session. This pricing makes therapy more accessible, especially for those watching the pennies. Most importantly, by cutting local waiting lists, we're ensuring that men don't have to wait weeks or months to get the help they need. 

Volunteering Opportunities for Empowerment

One of the most powerful ways to support mental wellbeing is by creating opportunities for men to feel useful and part of something bigger. We provide volunteering opportunities for men to help develop our site and services.

Whether you're a DIY god or more of a "I've just put six holes in the wall trying to hang a picture" kind of chap, there's something enormously satisfying about building something tangible.

A Non-Pressure Environment: Fire Pit Evenings

Not every conversation has to be about deep, heavy topics. That's why we're going to be promoting regular Friday fire pit evenings – informal gatherings where men can relax, share jokes, and engage in light-hearted conversations.

There's something primal about gathering around a fire that seems to loosen tongues and lighten the load. We've found that more meaningful conversations often happen naturally when no one feels pressured to "share their feelings." Plus, there's always that one bloke who insists he's a "fire expert" but somehow can't get the thing lit without using half a bottle of lighter fluid!

Humour, Fun, and Camaraderie

Laughter really can be the best medicine (along with, you know, actual medicine when you need it). We recognise that humour can be a powerful form of therapy, often breaking down barriers that formal settings might create.

At True North Collective, we don't take ourselves too seriously. Yes, we're dealing with serious issues, but who says the journey to better mental health can't include a few laughs along the way? After all, sometimes the most therapeutic thing is having a good chuckle with mates who get it.

Physical and Mental Activities

Mental health isn't just about talking. We will be offering survival walks in stunning Yorkshire countryside, digital inclusion and coding classes, debt counselling, outdoor cooking, forestry skills, and more. But you can also help by volunteering and developing our programmes of activity - we're keen to use the skills and talents of our local community. These activities reduce isolation and foster a sense of belonging. And yes, being terrible at something new together is a surprisingly effective bonding experience!

Why This Model Works: A Holistic Approach to Mental Health

The traditional therapy model isn't a one-size-fits-all solution, especially when it comes to men's mental health. Many men benefit more from a community-based, holistic approach that combines emotional support, physical activity, and social connections.

• Reducing Isolation: Men often feel isolated in their struggles. By providing group activities like the fire pit evenings and volunteering opportunities, we help foster social connections, which is a key part of mental health recovery.

• Building Emotional Resilience: The combination of physical activities and mental support helps men build emotional resilience. Physical activities release endorphins, improving mood, while socialising and engaging in positive environments can counteract feelings of loneliness and despair.

• Challenging the Stigma: Our approach allows men to access support without the need to immediately discuss their deepest emotions. This reduces the barrier that many men face when seeking therapy and helps them feel more comfortable starting their mental health journey.

Creating a New Narrative for Men's Mental Health

The statistics surrounding male suicide and mental health are a clear indication that we need to rethink how we approach men's mental health services. Traditional methods have their place, but they often don't resonate with the needs of many men.

True North Collective seeks to bridge this gap by offering a multi-faceted approach that incorporates both mental and physical support, affordability, and community-building. We are here to provide the tools and support that men need to thrive, not just survive.

We believe that by combining practical support, humour, and a non-judgmental space, we can begin to change the narrative surrounding men's mental health and ensure that more men feel empowered to take control of their mental wellbeing.

Call to Action

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health issues, don't wait. Join us at True North Collective in creating a new path forward for men's mental health. Whether through therapy, volunteering, or simply attending one of our fire pit evenings, we are here to help. You don't have to go through this alone.

Pop in to see us on Woodville Road in Keighley (Wednesdays’ or Fridays are best), or get in touch to find out more about our services and activities. Remember, taking that first step is often the hardest part – but we promise you'll find no judgment here, just a warm welcome and possibly a dodgy cup of tea or coffee.

Author: Richard Pierce, Director of Counselling & Therapy Services (TNC)

References:

1. Mind. (2019). Get it off your chest: men's mental health 10 years on. Retrieved from https://www.mind.org.uk/media/6771/get-it-off-your-chest_a4_final.pdf

2. Cardiff and Vale Action for Mental Health. (2023). Men's Mental Health Month 2023. Retrieved from https://www.cavamh.org.uk/news/mens-mental-health-month-2023/

3. Counselling Directory. (2024). Key Statistics about Men and Mental Health. Retrieved from https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/men-and-mental-health-stats.html

4. Priory Group. (n.d.). Men's Mental Health: Why 40% of men won't talk about it. Retrieved from https://www.priorygroup.com/blog/40-of-men-wont-talk-to-anyone-about-their-mental-health

5. Mental Health Foundation. (2022). Men and women: statistics. Retrieved from https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/statistics/men-women-statistics

6. MindWise Innovations. (2023). A Critical Look at Men's Mental Health. Retrieved from https://mindwise.org/blog/mental-health/a-critical-look-at-mens-mental-health/

How to manage your energy levels when grieving or living with chronic illness

Do you sometimes beat yourself up or feel guilty or ashamed when you feel tired or low on energy and can't do the things you feel you should be doing?

Days when getting out of bed and showering or doing household chores simply feels like too much – leaving you feeling bad about yourself and giving rise to a hectoring inner critic that pipes up with negative comments.

This is very common in clients who have experienced a bereavement or who are living with chronic illness or who have caring responsibilities that deplete their reserves.

Time after time in session I listen to clients list all they have to deal with and then end with a 'But why can't I just go to the gym? I'm SO lazy...' or 'I know I should say no, and I didn't feel like it at all, but I did it, anyway because I felt bad and that I'd let everyone down, including me.'

Silence the negativity and think of spoons...

The Spoon Theory

The Spoon Theory is a metaphor devised by writer Christine Miserandino in 2003 to illustrate how people living with conditions like lupus and multiple sclerosis (MS) have to manage fluctuating energy levels. But it can also be applied to people living with everything from cancer to dementia plus those who are grieving after the death of a loved one and to anyone with caring responsibilities, too.

It goes something like this...

Imagine you have 12 spoons of energy to see you through the day. Some days, getting out of bed, showering, getting dressed, doing your hair and getting out of the house will take 3 spoonfuls of energy. Other days, when you're living with brain fog, pain and fatigue or an overwhelming wave of grief, those initial tasks will take 8 spoons:

• Getting out of bed = 2 spoons

• Showering = 2 spoons

• Dressing = 1 spoon

• Doing your hair/make-up/shaving = 1 spoon

• Leaving the house/remembering keys/locking up/getting in the car or travelling to public transport = 2 spoons

This leaves you with just 4 spoonfuls of energy to see you through the day.

That's really not much, is it? If you're caring for others or working, that's barely achievable. 

What most people do is 'borrow' a few spoonfuls from the next day. Which means they're living in a permanent deficit. This is where unhelpful coping mechanisms come in: poor food choices, consuming excess alcohol, mindless scrolling online, lack of sleep hygiene, i.e. dozing on the sofa after dinner; substance misuse.

Often this leads to low mood, depression, anxiety and a lowering of self esteem if left unchecked over a long period of time.

So, instead, when you're feeling like you can't cope with what you feel might be 'the basics' of life, give yourself a break and ask yourself:

How many spoons do I have today?

Then use them wisely.

And if that means leaving the household chores, cancelling plans or not washing your hair, so be it.

Article by Kay Thomas (one of TNC online therapists)

True North or Bust

I'm fine, I’m grand, I’m absolutely great,
Just crying in Aldi’s new self-checkout lane.
I lift big weights, I don’t lift the phone,
Tough as old boots but brittle as bone.

They say "chin up," but my "chin's down,"
Drowning my demons with a lukewarm frown.
I’m a proper bloke, a real man's man,
Ignoring the fire while the house goes bang.

Boys don’t cry, but they probably should,
Boys don’t talk, though it’d do ‘em good.
Boys get lost, but there’s maps and such—
True North or bust! True North or bust!

Sat in the shed with my silent rage,
Building a birdhouse, forgetting my age.
The dog understands but the wife does not,
I mowed the lawn but the sadness stayed put.

DIY therapy, Youtube sage,
Googled “inner peace,” got “carb intake.”
I should get help, but lads don’t do that,
So I’ll just join a gym and never go back.

Boys don’t cry, but they probably should,
Boys don’t talk, though it’d do ‘em good.
Boys get stuck, but there’s ways to adjust—
Follow the stars, True North or bust!"

Pints don’t listen, football won’t care,
A punchline’s fine, but the punchline’s where?
So I rang up TNC, said, “Look, mate, I’m stuck,”
They said, “Cup o’ tea?” and that was enough.

I ain't broken, I ain't weak,
But turns out, mate, I do need sleep.
A bloke alone is a heavy load,
But share the weight, and off you go.

Boys don’t cry? Well, maybe they should.
Boys don’t talk? Then let’s make it good.
Boys drift off, but they’re never alone—
True North will guide you home.

Breaking the Silence: A Personal and Professional Perspective on Integrative Therapy

As both a therapist and someone who has themselves reluctantly sought mental health support, I hope and can bring a unique perspective to the conversation about therapeutic approaches. My journey from NHS Management to becoming a therapist, catalysed for having to halt my career by caring for my father through his dementia until his passing last year, has deeply informed my understanding of the transformative power of integrative therapy.

Today mental health concerns are increasingly prevalent, yet many individuals remain hesitant to seek professional help. As a 52-year-old male therapist, I've experienced firsthand the statistics that Blom (2025) highlights - that men, particularly those aged 25-54, are significantly less likely to seek mental health support compared to women. The study found that 40% of men with symptoms of depression felt they had no need for mental healthcare, compared to only 25% of women (Blom, 2025).

My own experience with NHS talking therapy, whilst well-intentioned, left me frustrated with the constant "how do you feel?" questions when I wasn't entirely sure of my feelings, and the homework assignments of tracking triggering situations in notebooks felt more burdensome than helpful. This experience shaped my approach to integrative therapy, which combines person-centred, psychodynamic, and relational approaches to offer a more nuanced and effective solution for those sceptical of traditional therapeutic methods (Cooper, 2021).

What I've found, both personally and professionally, is that authentic listening and genuine human connection often prove more valuable than rigid therapeutic frameworks. Whilst I don't dismiss behavioural approaches or strict person-centred methods, my practice is built on the foundation of being present and responsive in a way that acknowledges the unique complexity of each individual's experience. This aligns with the American Psychological Association's (2012) recognition that flexibility and adaptability in therapeutic approaches are crucial for effective treatment.

For men who may be hesitant to engage in therapy, as I once was, integrative approaches can offer a more accessible entry point. By incorporating elements of psychodynamic therapy, which explores unconscious processes and early life experiences, we can help men gain deeper insights into the root causes of their struggles (Talk to Evolve Counselling, 2024). My personal experience of navigating career change and grief whilst caring for my father has given me a profound understanding of the challenges men face in expressing vulnerability and seeking support.

The person-centred aspect of integrative therapy emphasises empathy, unconditional positive regard, and authenticity in the therapeutic relationship. This non-judgmental environment, which I strive to create in every session, helps clients feel more comfortable opening up about their experiences and emotions, fostering a sense of trust and safety that is crucial for effective therapy (UK Council for Psychotherapy, n.d.).

Research consistently supports the efficacy of this approach. A comprehensive meta-analysis by Cuijpers et al. (2013) found that psychotherapy is at least as effective as medication in addressing most mental health concerns, with the added benefit of longer-lasting effects and a lower risk of relapse after treatment ends. For those concerned about the severity of their issues, as I once was, it's worth noting that studies have demonstrated that psychotherapy can be even more effective for individuals with high-severity depression compared to those with low-severity symptoms (Cuijpers et al., 2013).

Within my practice, I recognise that traditional therapeutic approaches don't resonate with everyone. My personal journey through career transition, caregiving, and grief has taught me the importance of meeting clients where they are, rather than forcing them into predetermined therapeutic frameworks. This understanding shapes my integrative approach, which draws from various modalities whilst maintaining a focus on authentic human connection and genuine understanding.

References

• American Psychological Association (2012) 'Resolution on the Recognition of Psychotherapy Effectiveness', Available at: https://www.apa.org/about/policy/resolution-psychotherapy (Accessed: 17 February 2025).

• Blom, S. (2025) 'Men's greater reluctance to seek mental healthcare', University of Gothenburg, Available at: https://www.gu.se/en/news/mens-greater-reluctance-to-seek-mental-healthcare (Accessed: 17 February 2025).

• Cooper, M. (2021) 'How to Explain Integrative Practices: A Directional Account', Available at: https://mick-cooper.squarespace.com/new-blog/2021/4/10/how-to-explain-integrative-practices-a-directional-account (Accessed: 17 February 2025).

• Cuijpers, P., et al. (2013) 'The efficacy of psychotherapy and pharmacotherapy in treating depressive and anxiety disorders: a meta-analysis of direct comparisons', World Psychiatry, 12(2), pp. 137-148.

• Talk to Evolve Counselling (2024) 'Exploring the Benefits of Integrative Counselling: A Holistic Approach to Mental Health', Available at: https://www.talktoevolve.com/post/exploring-the-benefits-of-integrative-counselling-a-holistic-approach-to-mental-health (Accessed: 17 February 2025).

• UK Council for Psychotherapy (n.d.) 'Psychotherapy evidence', Available at: https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/policy-and-research/research/psychotherapy-evidence/ (Accessed: 17 February 2025).

Understanding Your Attachment Style: A Guide to Relationships and Mental Health

Attachment styles play a crucial role in shaping our relationships and overall mental well-being. This handout will provide you with an overview of attachment theory, the different attachment styles, their impact on relationships and mental health, and recommendations for further exploration.

What are Attachment Styles?

Attachment styles refer to patterns of bonding that people learn as children and carry into their adult relationships. These styles influence how we perceive and deal with emotional intimacy, communicate our needs, respond to conflict, and form expectations about our partners and relationships.

The Four Attachment Styles

1. Secure Attachment

• Comfortable with intimacy and independence

• Able to balance dependence and autonomy in relationships

• Positive view of self and others

2. Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment (Anxious in children)

• Craves intimacy and can be overly dependent

• May be demanding in relationships

• Fears rejection and abandonment

3. Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment (Avoidant in children)

• Values independence highly

• May appear detached or uninterested in close relationships

• Strong sense of self-sufficiency

4. Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (Disorganised in children)

• Desires close relationships but fears vulnerability

• May behave unpredictably due to internal conflict

• Struggles with trusting others

How Attachment Styles Present in Relationships

Secure Attachment

• Comfortable with closeness and independence

• Effective communication of emotions and needs

• Ability to listen and understand partner's needs

• Positive expectations about relationships

• Constructive approach to conflict resolution

Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment

• Intense desire for closeness and intimacy

• Fear of abandonment and rejection

• May appear clingy or demanding

• Hypervigilant to signs of distance or withdrawal

• Tendency to seek constant reassurance

Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment

• Discomfort with emotional intimacy

• Preference for independence and self-reliance

• May appear emotionally distant or unavailable

• Difficulty expressing feelings or needs

• Tendency to withdraw during conflicts

Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

• Conflicting desires for intimacy and independence

• Fear of both closeness and abandonment

• Unpredictable behaviour in relationships

• Difficulty trusting partners

• May alternate between clingy and distant behaviours

Impact on Relationships and Mental Health

Positive Impacts

• Secure attachment promotes healthy, stable relationships

• Understanding your attachment style can lead to personal growth

• Awareness of attachment patterns can improve communication

Potential Challenges

• Insecure attachment styles may lead to relationship difficulties

• Anxious and avoidant styles can contribute to emotional distress

• Unresolved attachment issues may impact mental health and self-esteem

Origins of Attachment Theory

Attachment theory was developed by John Bowlby in the 1950s and further expanded by Mary Ainsworth in the 1970s. Bowlby proposed that early childhood experiences with caregivers form the basis for how individuals approach relationships throughout their lives. Ainsworth's research, including the famous "Strange Situation" experiment, helped identify and classify different attachment styles in children.

Attachment Styles in Adulthood

In the late 1980s, Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver extended attachment theory to adult romantic relationships. They found that attachment patterns observed in childhood often persist into adulthood, influencing how individuals form and maintain romantic partnerships.

Improving Your Attachment Style

While attachment styles are formed early in life, they are not fixed. With self-awareness and effort, it is possible to develop a more secure attachment style:

1. Recognise your attachment pattern and its impact on your relationships

2. Practice self-reflection and emotional awareness

3. Communicate openly and honestly with partners about your needs and fears

4. Seek professional help, such as attachment-based psychotherapy, if needed

5. Work on building self-esteem and a positive self-image

6. Learn to balance independence and intimacy in relationships

Conclusion

Understanding your attachment style can provide valuable insights into your relationship patterns and emotional responses. By recognising these patterns, you can work towards developing more secure attachments and improving your overall mental health and relationship satisfaction.

Recommended Further Reading

1. Bowlby, J., 1988. A secure base: Parent-child attachment and healthy human development. New York: Basic Books.

2. Levine, A. and Heller, R., 2012. Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find-and keep-love. New York: Penguin.

3. Johnson, S.M., 2008. Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. New York: Little, Brown Spark.

4. Siegel, D.J. and Hartzell, M., 2003. Parenting from the inside out: How a deeper self-understanding can help you raise children who thrive. New York: Penguin.

5. Wallin, D.J., 2007. Attachment in psychotherapy. New York: Guilford Press.

6. Mikulincer, M. and Shaver, P.R., 2007. Attachment in adulthood: Structure, dynamics, and change. New York: Guilford Press.

True North Collective: Supporting Our Local Community in Keighley

In West Yorkshire, True North Collective (TNC) is making a meaningful difference in community support. Founded by a dedicated team of professionals, the organisation offers targeted programs to help individuals facing various challenges.

Supporting Our Community

TNC recognises that mental health, personal development, and community well-being are interconnected. Led by directors Pawel Kosinski, David Wootton and Treasurer Sue Small, the organisation combines professional expertise from therapy, digital innovation, financial guidance, and community leadership.

Three Key Initiatives

1. Compassion Collective: Mental Health Support

The Compassion Collective provides counselling and support for men and other groups often underserved by traditional mental health services. Through subsidised counselling, sound therapy workshops, and pain management sessions, TNC creates a supportive environment for individuals to address their mental health needs.

2. Empower Collective: Skills Development

Responding to rapid technological changes, the Empower Collective offers practical workshops in financial management, digital literacy, and career development.

3. Thrive Collective: Wellness Through Nature

The Thrive Collective takes a unique approach to wellness, offering guided walking sessions and community fire-pit evenings. By combining physical activity, mindfulness, and social connection, participants discover new ways to build resilience and well-being.

A Comprehensive Approach

TNC is designing its programs to interconnect, ensuring participants have ongoing support and growth opportunities. The organisation focuses on inclusivity, welcoming individuals from diverse backgrounds, with a particular emphasis on supporting marginalised groups.

Community Partnerships

TNC is keen to link with likeminded organisations and is part of a new and exciting environmental and enterprise community in the heart of Keighley. The organisation is committed to creating practical, accessible support for community members.

Get Involved

Learn more about True North Collective at www.truenorthcollective.co.uk, Email: info@truenorthcollective.co.uk or visit the Woodville Activity Centre, Woodville Road, Keighley, BD20 6JA.

At True North Collective, we believe in supporting individuals to build stronger, more connected communities.

Finding peace in a greasy spoom

Finding Peace in a Greasy Spoon

Sitting here in this corner café, waiting for my ancient Volvo to get fixed, and it hits me - there's something special about these places. Not the fancy spots with names I can't pronounce, just your regular café where the coffee's decent and nobody minds if you nurse it for an hour.

Got me thinking about how we're all searching for some kind of peace these days, aren't we? Some people shell out fortunes for fancy retreats, when sometimes all you need is a quiet corner and a brew.

The thing about cafés is they're like a buffer zone between being alone and being social. You can sit here, watching life happen around you - the old couple sharing their crossword, students with their laptops, workers grabbing a quick sarnie. Nobody bothers you, but you're not exactly alone either. It's like being alone together, if that makes sense.

And there's something about being in these spaces that lets your mind settle. Maybe it's the background chatter, or the smell of toast, or just watching the steam rise from your cup. Your thoughts can wander without getting lost, if you know what I mean.

Sometimes the most profound conversations happen over a simple cup of coffee. Not in some sterile room with certificates on the walls (we provide that as well btw), but in places where people feel at home. Places where you can just... be.

That's why I've been mulling over something. What if we could create these moments on purpose? Not therapy sessions exactly, but morning meetups. Just coffee, maybe some breakfast, and space to breathe. No pressure to pour your heart out, no awkward group sharing unless you fancy it. Just a chance to experience this kind of peaceful company with others who might need it.

It's funny how the simple things - a decent brew, a bit of people-watching, the morning light through steamy windows - can sometimes do more for your head than all the self-help books in the world. There's healing in the ordinary, isn't there?

So I'm putting it out there - would this be something you'd be interested in? Just a morning coffee, maybe a chat if you're up for it, or just sitting quiet if that's more your speed. No pressure, no expectations. Just a bit of peace and quiet in good company.

Because sometimes that's all we need, isn't it? A moment to pause, a decent cup of tea, and the knowledge that it's perfectly alright to just sit and be.

Let me know what you think. Could be onto something here, or could just be the caffeine talking. Either way, my Volvo's probably ready by now.

[If you're interested in morning coffee meetups or want to learn more about our peer support and therapeutic services, drop me a line richard.pierce@truenorthcollective.co.uk. Sometimes the best healing happens over a simple cup of coffee.]

Breaking Barriers: Why Men Should Embrace Therapy and How True North Collective Can Help.

On January 20, 2025, True North Collective (TNC) launches its comprehensive counselling and therapy service, addressing a critical need in mental health support, particularly for men. This launch comes at a time when the disparity in mental health treatment between genders is more apparent than ever.

The Gender Gap in Mental Health Support

In the UK, only 36% of referrals for talking therapies like counselling and psychotherapy are for men (Baker, 2018). This statistic is alarming, especially considering that suicide rates among men are approximately three times higher than women (Office for National Statistics, 2022). The reluctance of men to seek therapy stems from various factors, including societal pressure to conform to traditional masculine norms of self-reliance and emotional control.

Understanding the Barriers

Many men struggle to express emotions, fearing it will lead to a loss of masculine identity (Scholz, Crabb and Wittert, 2017). There's also widespread scepticism about the benefits of therapy, particularly when it involves self-disclosure and introspection (Lynch, Long and Moorhead, 2018). These barriers can lead to severe consequences, with men more likely to turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms like substance abuse and risk-taking behaviours (Affleck, Carmichael and Whitley, 2018).

True North Collective's Approach

TNC's new counselling and therapy service aims to break down these barriers. Our programme provides a comprehensive suite of therapeutic and mental health support activities, designed to address individual needs and enhance emotional resilience.

We offer:

• Therapeutic Support: Counselling, listening skills, and communication skills training.

• Specialised Therapies: Innovative approaches like dance elemental therapy, sound healing, and forest bathing.

• Health Management: Understanding chronic pain and stress reduction techniques.

Why Our Approach Works

1. Flexibility: Our programme accommodates ongoing participation and new intakes, allowing men to join at any time and engage in different activities as their needs evolve

2. Diverse Options: We offer alternative formats that may be more appealing to men who are hesitant about traditional face-to-face counselling (Berger et al., 2013).

3. Holistic Support: Our interconnected projects combine mental health support with digital skills training and social activities, providing a comprehensive approach to well-being

4. Safe Space: We create an environment where men can explore their emotions, gain insight into their thought patterns, and develop healthier coping strategies without judgment.

The Benefits of Therapy for Men

Therapy can be a powerful tool for personal growth, self-understanding, and overall well-being. It can help address a wide range of issues, including depression, anxiety, trauma, relationship problems, and low self-esteem (Orlando Health, 2023). By challenging outdated notions of masculinity and promoting open conversations about mental health, we aim to create a more supportive environment for men to prioritise their emotional well-being.

Innovative Approaches to Mental Health

At TNC, we believe in offering a diverse range of therapeutic options to cater to different preferences and needs. Our specialised therapies, such as dance elemental therapy and sound healing, provide unique avenues for self-expression and healing.

These innovative approaches can be particularly appealing to men who may feel uncomfortable with traditional talk therapy.

Community Integration and Long-term Support

Our programme is designed not just for short-term intervention but for long-lasting impact. We emphasise community integration, partnering with local organisations to provide a far-reaching support network.

This approach ensures that participants have access to resources and connections beyond their time in our programme, fostering sustainable well-being and personal growth.

Digital Inclusion and Financial Empowerment

Recognising the interconnected nature of mental health and overall life satisfaction, TNC also offers digital skills training and financial literacy programmes.

These initiatives aim to reduce social and digital isolation, empowering men to manage their finances, pursue career goals, and engage confidently in the digital world. By addressing these practical aspects of life alongside mental health support, we provide a truly holistic approach to well-being.

Join Us in Breaking the Stigma

As we launch our counselling and therapy service on January 20, 2025, we invite men to take the courageous step towards better mental health. At True North Collective, we believe that seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Our doors are open to all who wish to embark on a journey of self-discovery and emotional resilience. Remember, it's not just about surviving; it's about thriving. Let's work together to break the silence surrounding men's mental health and build a community where everyone feels empowered to seek the support they need.

References

• Affleck, W., Carmichael, V. and Whitley, R., 2018. Men's Mental Health: Social Determinants and Implications for Services. The Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, 63(9), pp.581-589.

• Baker, C., 2018. Obesity Statistics. House of Commons Library.

• Berger, J.L., Addis, M.E., Green, J.D., Mackowiak, C. and Goldberg, V., 2013. Men's Reactions to Mental Health Labels, Forms of Help-Seeking, and Sources of Help-Seeking Advice. Psychology of Men & Masculinity, 14(4), pp.433-443.

• Lynch, L., Long, M. and Moorhead, A., 2018. Young Men, Help-Seeking, and Mental Health Services: Exploring Barriers and Solutions. American Journal of Men's Health, 12(1), pp.126-139.

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Blog written and researched by:

Richard Pierce, Director of Counselling and Therapy Services, True North Collective.

Building Stronger Communities Through Men's Wellness

Written By Richard Pierce, Director of Counselling and Therapy Service, True North Collective.

As a BACP Registered Male Counsellor and founder of True North Collective, I've witnessed how supporting men's mental health creates ripples that strengthen entire communities. My journey isn't just a professional one – it's deeply personal, and it's shaped our approach to building spaces where everyone benefits when men embrace wellness.

Finding Our True North

Like many men, my path to wellness wasn't straightforward. Working in a demanding HR role, I embodied what many do: the problem-solver, the one who carries on regardless. It took reaching a breaking point to recognise that true strength lies not in solitude, but in connection and community support.

The Power of Community Connection

At True North Collective, we've created something different. We understand that traditional therapy isn't always the first step men want to take. That's why we've built a community that supports mental health through various pathways:

• Adventure and outdoor activities that challenge and invigorate

• Skill-building workshops that foster personal growth and community engagement

• Social spaces where people can connect, share experiences, and support each other

• Support networks that understand the unique challenges men face while celebrating diversity

Breaking New Ground

Research shows that when men engage with their mental health, it positively impacts their families, workplaces, and communities. At True North Collective, we embrace this ripple effect. Our programs create environments where men can engage with their well-being in ways that feel natural and empowering, leading to stronger relationships and more connected communities.

The True North Difference

Our community stands apart because we understand that nurturing men's mental health strengthens the fabric of society. We recognise that:

• Personal growth leads to more meaningful connections with family and friends

• Emotional awareness enhances leadership at work and in the community

• Supporting men's mental health creates more nurturing environments for everyone

• Wellness isn't just about managing problems – it's about creating positive change that benefits all

Join Our Community

If you're in the Aire and Worth Valley area, True North Collective welcomes you. Based at the Woodville Activity Centre in Keighley, we will be offering various programs and activities designed to support mental health and community connection.

A Vision for the Future

As we grow, our mission remains clear: to create spaces where men can develop emotional awareness and resilience, leading to stronger, more connected communities. Whether you're seeking personal growth, looking to develop new skills, or want to contribute to community well-being, True North Collective is here for you.

Take the First Step

Ready to be part of a community that supports genuine growth while contributing to positive social change? Visit us at True North Collective. Here, you'll find people who understand that when men embrace mental health and emotional well-being, everyone benefits.

Remember, joining our community isn't just about getting support – it's about being part of a movement that recognises how nurturing men's mental health creates more resilient, understanding, and connected communities.

True North Collective is based at the Woodville Activity Centre, Woodville Road, Keighley BD20 6JA, offering a range of activities and support services. For more information about our programs and how to get involved, reach out to us today.